Aftercare is not just for kinks. Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.
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Melisa: If we have no aftercare, where are we leaving? There's this drop-off, there's nothing, you know? And so it sort of easing out of the sexual experience back into a connective experience in a different, like at a different energetic level. And it can continue too we're not just talking like the 20, 30 minutes after a sexual encounter. It can continue like the next day, the next week, between visits. And yeah, I think about it as connection. Keely: Well, hello, everyone. Welcome to Queer Relationships, Queer Joy. You have me , Keely C. Helmick, owner of Connective Therapy Collective as one of your hosts Melisa: and your other hosts, Melissa. DeSegiurant a therapist at Connective Therapy collective Keely: So in Portland, Oregon today, it's a snow day. So I'm just going to preface this with, like, if anyone's watching the YouTube video right now, I am in fact in my bedroom and you may see a random child pop their head in, but we will definitely make sure that Cardinal will edit that out if that so happens. Melisa: Winter is back. Keely: Yes, Winter is back. I mean, it's glorious. I have my set up right now with my computer in zoom that I can look at it while we're talking. But yeah, it's quite the... quite interesting. Melissa, do you want to introduce yourself and talk a little bit about what you're up to? We don't have an interview today so we can kind of do a catch up like-, like introductions and catch up all in ones. Cool. Melisa: Well, I'm Melissa. I use she, they pronouns, like I said, I'm a therapist at Connective Therapy Collective. I am bisexual. I am polyamorous, non monogamously dating and enjoying, I think this weird winter day, I'm very confused. My system is very confused as to what's happening. I was really embracing spring and then it snowed. And I don't know, ironically, I felt like this weekend was a lot of like winter themes and just from my own personal work, you know it felt like a very inward focused kind of like re-examining previous dark nights of the