How do you balance personal responsibility with social responsibility? How do you grow through relationship with self? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships. This week's guest is Robin Keesler.
Free self love workshop from Robin: https://mailchi.mp/7f7621ddcc32/self-love-worksheet
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Robin: So whether you get in a relationship or in a relationship, is irrelevant, but it's why, why am I in this relationship? Why am I alone? Am I alone? Am I being single or solo? Because I'm afraid of love because I'm afraid of intimacy. Am I being single because I'm telling myself a story why I'm better off on my own. I can do it. Like what's the narrative driving that behavior. Keely: Hello, everybody. Welcome to episode two of season two of Queer Relationships, Queer Joy. I'm one of your hosts, Keeley C Helmick. Melisa: And I'm your other host, Melissa DeSegiurant, Keely: we're very excited here today to be meeting with Robin. And one of the things we do Robin, to start off the episode is introduce ourselves. So we'll go ahead and introduce ourselves first and then we'll let you, you can kind of follow our format or do your own thing up to you and you can go from there. So I am Keely C Helmick. I am a queer sex therapist, owner of Connective Therapy collective .I am white, gender fluid. Non-binary queer. Ah, solo. Like, I guess I keep, I almost want to F- I almost want to skip over the relationship dynamic part, but I gotta keep saying it. I am SOLO! Melisa: And I'm Melissa DeSegiurant. I am a clinician with Connective Therapy Collective I am white gender fluid, bisexual polyamorous person, solo solo, poly. Robin: Wonderful. I love it. Well, I'm Robin Keesler and I am you, she, her pronouns. And I identify as lesbian and I am in this interesting place. Like we were just talking about of also being solo but for the first time in my life with intentionality. Which is so cool and crazy to experience. So like really solo by choice. And it's been such a phenomenal experience for me to really, as I was watching some of your previous episodes and interviews, so fun to really think about, I mean, just all the stuff you guys talk about have. It has been so cool for me. But yeah, really just after I got out of my last relationship, I was in this relationship for probably two or three years and engaged and had all of it, like right on this train, we're gonna have kids and do all the things and like super exciting. And then with, you know, then deciding not to do that, I'm like what a cool experience. So it was so neat for me to be able to go through that and be like, yeah, Like, like want that instead of not wanting that and to be like, and, and so awesome. As I, you know, talking about like being in the dating world again, and like, it has been so fun for me to be dating. And, but like not dating with the intention of getting a relationship. Right. And isn't that so different. Yeah. And I've never done that before and it's like talking, you know, it's like, as I talked to my therapist and my coaches, all my people, I'm like, this is crazy. I'm like, I have never felt like more wanted in my whole. Like all these, and talking about building connection and creating connection. And it's like, my world has opened up to all these amazing people that, you know, for me, giving myself the space to be. What are the things that I need to valid