How do you stop the break up & make up cycle? How do you settle in to safety? How does whiteness relate to our idea of attachment? And wtf is a baecation? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.
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Melisa: I shouldn't need anyone. I should be okay on my own. I should. I should. I should. I should I should. Who says??? Like the way that we're set up, like biologically, we are, we are gravitating towards other people very much. So we're meant to be in community Keely: we're pack animals and Melisa: they made this point too. It's not my own, but if the pandemic hasn't proved that to all of us, then we haven't been paying attention. Hello, every one welcome back to- Queer Relationships, Queer Joy! I had to cut you off Keely. I never get to introduce our title. Keely: Good for you! That's one of the things we actually talked about. Like listeners don't realize this, but I'll at the end when we talk, I'll be like, Hey. Cut each other off more because we're therapists. Jump in there, you know? We're so used to just being like, oh yes. Oh yeah. And how did that make you feel? Oh, and listening attentively and active listening. Take it over. Do it! Do it take over! Melissa takeover. Melisa: Well, I want to start with check-ins because we haven't had an episode in a little minute where it was just you and I, and I know we have a theme in mind, but also maybe we can just check in, let listeners know how we're doing. Keely: Yeah. It's fun getting feedback from listeners actually, because I had someone who, a friend of a friend who had mentioned they'd started listening from the beginning and then all of a sudden they got to like, I don't know if it's episode nine or 10 and they're like, Well, th they broke up with the person or they got broken up with, like, they figured out that I was single because the first couple episodes. So that was fun. Yeah. It was fun. So Well, I mean, I will start with an update since you bring that up still solo trying the dating thing, which I think feeds a lot of. This idea when we're talking about community. Cause we're going to bring that up too. We're going to bring up attachment, we're going to bring up community. Yeah. Doing the thing and had a couple like cute lit