The Queer Joy Podcast; two relationship therapists exploring what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.
In this episode we discuss finding friends on dating apps, being ready for love after a 10 year marriage, demisexuality, and (of course) the Relationship Hierarchy and how to navigate it.
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Melisa: Well, the one feels personal, but I'll name it. As I said before, I'm solo, poly. I was divorced a year ago from a ten year relationship, so I've definitely been like treading lightly in my dating situations, but I had this realization, I also identify as demisexual and for me, sexual pleasure really comes in a committed, loving relationship. And I had the realization I'm like totally ready to fall in love again. Um, Hello, everyone. Welcome back to Queer Relationships Queer Joy. Keely: I'm one of the hosts, Keeley C Helmick. Melisa: I'm your other host, Melisa De Seguirant. Keely: So we thought we started just, I wanted some catch-up. a check-in check-in. Cause there are some things that revealed the other episode and this should, this should be playing after that episode. So I want to hear more. Spill the tea. I put myself on the spot by saying you're ready to find love. Melisa: Ready? Yeah. It's it's interesting. It was interesting for me to say that in the moment I hadn't planned on that is like my queer joy and then it just kind of came out. Keely: Well, those are the best, when you don't pre-plan it. Melisa: right. Exactly. Yeah. And it's, it's interesting. I think also to say that in the context of, I have a loving relationship in my life, I've been in connection and relationship to people. So not single in the monogamous way. Yeah. I've been doing this solo poly thing. So, I guess what I mean by that is I am partially just through the connections I've made with folks really reaffirmed in my Demi sexual-ness. And for me, I used that word, but I always ask people like what that means to them, because it changes from person to person. Keely: Well, Melissa, what does demisexual mean to you? Melisa: For me, it means that I ex